START WITH SCRIPTURE:
Matthew 18:15-20
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OBSERVE:
One of the hallmarks of Scripture is realism. The revealed Word of God doesn’t envision a world that never existed, and never will, but the world as it is.
In the Gospel lectionary for this week, Jesus is addressing the reality of conflict between believers. He offers a kind of “court of appeals” as a way of dealing with someone who is aggrieved.
He advocates a grievance procedure for the person who feels that they are sinned against. Notice that he first humanizes the adversary — he calls him a brother:
If your brother sins against you, go, show him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained back your brother.
This first step is the most basic. Reconciliation can begin with a one-on-one conversation about the issue that has caused the rift. If that works, the brotherly relations are restored.
However, realism dictates that there be further steps in the event that personal reconciliation doesn’t work out.
The second step is to meet with one’s adversary in the presence of witnesses who can provide context and testimony, as well as objective, impartial counsel:
But if he doesn’t listen, take one or two more with you, that at the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
This is such good advice. The two or three witnesses, as prescribed by Deuteronomy 19:15, not only offer accountability for both parties involved, they may be able to offer objective advice to both sides.
There is a third “court of appeals” if you will. Take the “defendant” to the church assembly:
If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the assembly.
The scope of possible witnesses is meant to expand each time there is not satisfactory resolution to the issue, until the issues are clearly out in the open. What might have been resolved as a private matter has become a public matter.
Finally, if the adversary refuses even to listen to the church’s decision, representing the collective will of the community, the adversary is to be removed from the community:
If he refuses to hear the assembly also, let him be to you as a Gentile or a tax collector.
The truth is, the unrepentant adversary has done this to him/herself. Refusing to listen to the two or three witnesses and then the assembled church suggests that he/she doesn’t recognize the authority of the church. Therefore, they are no longer really a part of the community.
Jesus uses the example of Gentile and tax collector because in his time these were groups who were considered outside of the community — some by virtue of their religious orientation (Gentiles), some by career choices that were tainted by insinuations of corruption (tax collectors).
Jesus then explains the derivation of the church’s authority for such decisions:
Most certainly I tell you, whatever things you bind on earth will have been bound in heaven, and whatever things you release on earth will have been released in heaven.
Earlier in this Gospel, when Simon Peter acknowledges that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of the Living God (Matthew 16:13-20), Jesus tells him:
I will give to you the keys of the Kingdom of Heaven, and whatever you bind on earth will have been bound in heaven; and whatever you release on earth will have been released in heaven (Matthew 16:19).
However, our present passage suggests that such authority is vested with the community of faith — all of those who have declared their faith in Christ, who are gathered in council together. This is reinforced when Jesus repeats this formula, about even a small number gathered in his name:
Again, assuredly I tell you, that if two of you will agree on earth concerning anything that they will ask, it will be done for them by my Father who is in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there I am in the middle of them.
Clearly, neither the authority of Peter nor the authority of the church is autonomous. It is derived from the presence of Jesus in their midst, who is their intercessor with the Father. This doctrine is reinforced by Jesus’ words in the Gospel of John:
Most certainly I tell you, he who believes in me, the works that I do, he will do also; and he will do greater works than these, because I am going to my Father. Whatever you will ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you will ask anything in my name, I will do it (John 14:12-14).
We are reminded that when grievances are heard by the community of faith, the church is empowered to resolve them because Jesus is in their midst guiding them.
This is a pneumatic statement, which means that Jesus is promising to be with the community of faith through his Spirit (Greek: Pneuma).
APPLY:
Resolution of conflict is extremely important. For couples in counseling. For governments. For people in work situations. And especially in the church. Unresolved conflicts, if left to fester, can and often do escalate into open and sometimes violent hostility.
Jesus provides a sound procedure for resolving conflict.
- If we have been wronged, we are taught to seek direct resolution. This provides the time and space to reduce the tension, forgive and forget.
- If the accused refuses to admit wrongdoing or correct the situation, the second step is to meet with two or three witnesses. Presumably, this offers both parties the opportunity to be heard by objective, impartial witnesses. In contemporary terms, this might be analogous to arbitration out of court.
- If no resolution can be reached, the community of faith becomes involved, and their decision is binding.
From the beginning of Christian history, church councils have been convened to prayerfully debate and resolve issues of Christian doctrine, the Biblical canon, and even moral and ethical matters. Virtually every Christian denomination has some form of council or synod or conference which represents the whole church.
Today, when this process breaks down it is because some key ingredient has been overlooked. For example, the aggrieved individual who gossips to friends and acquaintances instead of speaking directly to the person who has offended them. The process can break down when both parties refuse to seek counseling from objective counselors or witnesses. And even more seriously, when the corporate body fails to be consistent with the will of God who has promised to be in our midst.
When the Scriptures, the witness of the Spirit, and the corporate will of the community of faith are in harmony, it seems pretty obvious that God’s will should be reasonably clear on ethical issues.
RESPOND:
How do we prevent conflicts from escalating out of control? We know that conflict and disagreement will happen. It seems pretty obvious that we should first talk it out with one another.
William Blake wrote a famous poem called A Poison Tree that illustrates what happens when we don’t work at reconciliation:
I was angry with my friend;
I told my wrath, my wrath did end.
I was angry with my foe:
I told it not, my wrath did grow.
And I waterd it in fears,
Night & morning with my tears:
And I sunned it with smiles,
And with soft deceitful wiles.
And it grew both day and night.
Till it bore an apple bright.
And my foe beheld it shine,
And he knew that it was mine.
And into my garden stole,
When the night had veil’d the pole;
In the morning glad I see;
My foe outstretched beneath the tree.
Unresolved conflict may not invariably lead to physical death, but it can and does result in the death of many a great friendship.
Lord, search my heart and reveal any harm or hurt I have caused to anyone else. And give me a spirit of forgiveness and reconciliation when someone has offended me. Give me the courage to address such issues with my brothers and sisters, so that I don’t cause even more damage. Amen.
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